Let me lead the way…

I always believe in listening to what the universe tells you, this may sound a bit crazy, but the more you pay attention to it and don’t try and fight it, the more you will glean from the direction you are driven in.

This also works with the universe sending me a message…. sometimes its a whisper, sometimes its a brick upside my head!

Well the latest concept that I have been sent is that of leadership. Recently, this word has been presented to me in many forms and yet I have tried to avoid it, ignore it and deny it. But the universe always knows best.

Leadership is something that takes time to adjust to and understand the responsibility that comes with it, to quote spiderman himself… ‘with great power, comes great responsibility’.

In my previous vocation, where leadership was thrust upon you, I knew and understood this so was comfortable in this role. Even as a tender teen, I was looked upon by others at times of stress, anxiety and chaos, to give them leadership and direction.

In my current profession, the concept of being a ‘leader’ is often associated with dated dominance based theories and synonymous with competitive approaches to training and behaviour. And as a result, I’ve refrained from acknowledging this aspect of my role.

The universe had other ideas. I was forced to face up to the concept of leadership and the responsibilities that come with it.

I have often refrained from defining my role as ‘a’ leader or ‘the’ leader for fear of that being misinterpreted. I felt uncomfortable with being defined as ‘leader’ because of the association to differing methodologies and needing to be the ‘pack’ leader.

When dealing with fearful timid dogs, with reactive issues or a newbie dog owner or trainer, who is starting their first step into the world of responsible dog ownership or sports, I give them leadership.

In my daily life, I give my daughter leadership, in my professional life as a coach and teacher, I give my students leadership. I advise them, I educate them, I enlighten them, I don’t try and dim their shine, I merely highlight their brilliance. Looking closer at what leadership meant to me, allowed me to redefine my perception and embrace it.

For me a leader is a person who inspires, who guides, who gives confidence but ultimately lets the individual shine. They don’t want to suppress or stifle the spirit of the being. It isn’t about oppression or domination. As a professional dog trainer, teacher and coach, I am required to be a leader.

A leader is also a person that gives boundaries where appropriate, denotes acceptable conduct and even some rules of engagement. This creates a fair and even playing field, it creates clarity. Everyone has the choice to participate or walk away. Leaders are honest, they are open and they support those that choose to bestow their trust on them. And true leaders, don’t use fear.

For those of us who have a role in the dog care/training/behaviour industry, we have responsibility to uphold this level of trust. All to often I hear of scenarios where someone has had this broken. This may be a person who has followed poor advice for a dog that is fearful. Or given advice that has compromised the relationship they wish to have with their dog. Leadership must be based on trust.

Being a leader comes with a price. Being willing to step against the trend, or put your head above the parapet is part of the role. Being a leader can be a solitary process at times, whilst others question themselves and if they wish to follow you. Having a genuine and truthful agenda for your intentions is critical. It cannot be monetary, it cannot be egotistical. Both these could be alluring, and test your intentions. When faced with a dog that needs leadership, it cannot be about ego or getting the job done. When wanting to help someone or conduct a seminar, it cannot just be about the pay cheque. It has to be about the subject, the intention and the truth.

Leadership takes understanding and acknowledgement, leaders inspire, uplift and build confidence. Whether the subject is two or four legged.

Be the leader you’d want to follow.

Taking the scenic route

I have numerous roles within the heading of being a professional dog trainer and sports dog coach.

I am teacher, there to educate people on how to train their dogs. To inform, inspire, enlighten and create the desire within my pupils to follow me on this

I am a coach, there to mentor, support, build confidence, guide and nurture my students to get the best out of their dogs. This is different to the role of teacher.

These are the main roles I have, however there are many roles within these.

I am chief butt kicker, on occasion… I am the therapist and shoulder to cry on when needed, the confidante, the deliverer of truth and honesty and also a friend.

These are some of the roles, that I fulfil.

But the key to me being able to complete the role successfully, and to the best of my ability is having a pupil/student/client that is receptive to the information.

This doesn’t mean a ‘yeh but, no but’ person, someone who doesn’t ‘want’ to hear what I have to say. This is totally different. It wouldn’t matter what I said or anyone else for that matter, they don’t want to listen. And thats ok. Everyone is on their own journey, and its not for me to ‘tell’ them they ‘have to’ listen to me.

I am referring to the person ‘ready’ to hear what I have to say, and willing but they aren’t ready to action on it, or implement what I’ve suggested.

This is the biggest frustration for students and clients I teach and help.

That readiness may be dependent on skill level, where they are at as a trainer/owner etc. We have all been there. When you first take a step on the path that is dog training, sometimes you won’t be ‘ready’ for that element, trusting your coach to call it is part of the process. I will often overlook something with a pupil, as it’s not relevant for where they are at.

It may be down to their dogs readiness, age, previous history, re-Training, breed etc. The dog may have a over riding issue that supersedes the short term goal. This may be choosing to expose your dog to a situation or environment as they may not be ready.

It may be down to their own ‘stuff’. They may not be quite ready to embrace what I have suggested, and thats ok. It may be scepticism or not quite ‘believing’, or we haven’t built up enough trust. Or they may revert back to what they have previously done.

The defining factor as to whether I can really ‘help’, isn’t actually about them, or the dog. It’s actually about me.

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learnt as a professional dog trainer, coach and someone that deals with behavioural issues is learning to align myself with the goals and objectives of the person I am working with. My goals are secondary to theirs. This may sound obvious, but the ego is a powerful thing and often gets in the way.

My goals aren’t their goals, and their goals aren’t my goals. My role is to align myself with what THEY want, and what THEY can do. Its not about the perfect picture or even the ideal end result. Its about facilitating what the person wants to achieve.

This may be a world class competition dog, and win major championships. Great, I can do that and have had pupils do exactly that.

Or their goal may be to have a dog that doesn’t bite people. Great I can do that, and I have helped numerous people achieve that precise goal.

Or it might simply be that they want a dog with a recall, and I’ve helped them achieve that goal too.

But the reason I have been able to do so, is because I understood what THEY wanted.

I may look at the dog, and see the magnitude of potential the dog has, but if thats not the persons goal, I have to let it go.

The other side of the coin, is when their goals don’t align with my beliefs. And the pill to swallow, is that I can’t help them and thats ok to.

The biggest realisation is that you can’t help EVERYONE. And its ok.

Thinking you can, will only leave you feeling a sense of failure or being overwhelmed.

Sometimes the hardest thing to accept is that you can’t help someone, not because you don’t have skills or knowledge, but because your goals and their goals are either not aligned or they are ready. And thats ok.

As a professional who feels passionate about my role, it was an early struggle that took a lot of understanding. Early in my career, my ego led me to believe that ‘I’ could help everyone, whether they wanted it or not. I can’t, its ok. Its not about me, it’s about them.

The reassuring thing to know, is that sometimes allowing someone the space to follow their own journey will bring them back to your path, if even via the scenic route…. everything happens just as it should, and trusting this can be an empowering lesson for any one embarking on a career where they want to genuinely help others.

Calm before the storm

As I lay wide awake at 3am, unable to get to sleep, my mind starts to ponder and tick away. I’ve always had this trait, and it got me thinking about a blog…. I have now ended up writing about 4 or 5 blog posts! All in an attempt to off load some of the mental ‘energy’ buzzing around, and try and get back to sleep!

I’m giving you an insight into my personality here LOL…. I expect some of the readers of this blog, that know me personally will be sniggering or quivering, thinking ‘oh lord… here we go!’

I am most definitely a hyperactive person, and I would definitely say that when I was a child, if the awareness was there, I would most definitely have been diagnosed with ADHD. My family used to quip, that if ever I was quiet you knew I was up to something! My parents recoil stories of my antics, and clearly recognised it from an early age. Evidently, my father was the same, and I can see that same need to be active and doing in my daughter… so it’s definitely in the line!! Still to this day, I hate being still. I struggle to be still, and even if I am… my thoughts are running a mock! I can have a conversation with you, and think of 3 other things at the same time! I am also enthusiastic and optimistic. I am always a ‘can do’ person. Lets find a solution.

But when I was a child, my parents took the issue and channelled it. From 5yrs old my dad took me to martial arts classes, and I was able to focus my energy somewhere. This and dog training, were two grounded forces in my life. To this day Physical activity and my dogs are the two things that quiet the ‘monkeys’ in my head. I need to have my ‘fix’ to feel settled.. or more importantly, feel content.

But yet, in the midst of the storm I can be calm. In my former vocation as Police Officer, I was often in situations of extreme stress and pressure, yet I could remain calm and unflustered. In a situation where the world is falling apart, I can think clearly and rationally.

For a person that struggles with being still, I can be ‘calm’ when appropriate. This is through training, teaching and learning to think clearly whilst under stress. In competition, I can think under pressure and focus my mind.

The concept of calmness is becoming a prevalent word in dog training and behaviour, for some reason more now then ever. But what is calmness to your dog, or are we athromorphising behaviour?

The awareness and understanding of dog behaviour and body language has opened up our eyes to the things our dogs are telling us, and the knowledge of calming signals has become more wide spread.

But have we confused the appearance of calm, with true contentment?

Albert Einstein said “Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”

If we substitute the word peace for ‘calm’, we may have the answer.

So ‘Calm cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding’.

And this applies to approaches used in dog training. Understand what your dog needs, and honour it.

There is a trend to reinforce or create calmness, with the intent that the physical behaviours will cause the brain to ‘default’ into a calm state. I am simplifying this explanation, but the link between physical and neurological states has been well documented.

However, there is a caveat to ‘creating’ calm. Have you first created contentment? Have you appeased  your dogs basic needs, to create contentment.

Reinforcing calming behaviour with a dog that has an abundance of energy is like putting a lid on a pressure cooker. Or trying to create calmness with a dog that is in physical discomfort, is like asking you to be calm whilst having root canal surgery without anaesthetic… Or trying to create calm whilst your dog is full of additives ingested from its poor quality food, is like asking your 2yr old to sit still after having a bottle of fizzy drink!

The concept of calmness is simple, if you create contentment first. I know this from experience.

And what create ‘calm’ for one, doesn’t necessarily create calm for another. I feel at ‘peace’ doing anything physical, and repetitive… running, cycling, on the rowing machine…. I feel a sense of calmness through the repetition of the action. I know in my own dogs, my high drive typically ‘un-calm’ dogs, exhibit a zen like aura when I used to bike them. They would be all excited and hyped when they saw the big, but as soon as it set in motion and started to move, they would instantly ‘zen’ out. It wouldn’t matter if it was after 30secs of bilking, or 30mins… they would hit this repetitive trot, and start to be almost in a mental cocoon’.

‘Calmness’ comes from being physically and mentally content, being satisfied in both areas and also finding what works for your dog. Like meditation, spiritual practices and rituals… calmness is a daily routine. Your dog needs a daily input to create calm.

I have a confession. My name is Kamal Fernandez and my dogs are lazy when at home! They literally spend the majority of the day milling around and sleeping! Incredibly un-inspring and lack lustre. But I am fully aware, that this is because they lead a full and varied lifestyle. They have ample physical and mental stimulation, which means they are content… which creates calmness. This state of ‘calm’ comes through into their training. They can ‘think’ because they are content.

Enthusiasm, drive and energy are not to be frowned upon and subdued. They should be utilised, channelled and acknowledge. They are attributes. However they can often be perceived as ‘flaws’ if not dealt with appropriately.

“He is so hyper, I wish he would calm down”…

“He gets so excited! I wish he would just stop and think”

“He’s a nightmare to live with, he just doesn’t stop”

“its like he’s on a knife edge, I wish he would just chill out”

Sound familiar? But what are you doing to create contentment?

Whenever I have dog that comes to me with Reactivity issues, this is one of the first things I look at.

Strive to create a dog that is content, this will create calm without even trying.

Enjoy your dogs.

Kamal Fernandez

Copy That…

Today I got an email from my friend, colleague, founder of the Fenzi Dog Sport Academy, Denise Fenzi.

She sent me a message asking if I had read an article.

Here is the link.


I read clicked on the link, and didn’t initially take note of the name. As I read through the article, it appeared strangely familiar to a blog that I had recently written. The more I read, I assumed that the author had ‘copied’ or adapted the blog post I had written…. So I just dusted it off, and took it as a back handed compliment… after all, its not the first time this has happened with ideas/methods I have put out into the world. As a professional dog trainer, its kinda par for the course. Its what happen when you put your ‘stuff’ out there.

So I asked Denise, when had it been written…. to which she said… ‘About 20yrs ago’! LOL. The author is the brilliant Suzanne Clothier.

Although I have been training dogs for close to 3 decades (geez that makes me sound ancient!), I think it would take some feat only achievable through the pages of science fiction or Doctor Who, I definitely wasn’t writing a blog 20yrs ago… in fact, did ‘blogs’ even exist?? Did the internet exist?? How ever did we manage!

So the assumption could be drawn that I ‘copied’ what the author had written. Don’t get me wrong, of course I am familiar with Suzanne Clothier’s work, she is fantastic! And my passion is dog training and behaviour, so of course I know her work! Her book ‘Following Ghost’ is a must for anyone interested in nosework, and her principles to dealing with dogs and horses with behavioural issues are fantastic, there are so many parallels to my own ethos and principles. I have referred others to her work. However I have not ever come across THIS particular article before. Its plausible to conclude that I had copied what Suzanne had written as passed it off as my own. However given that the blog post I wrote, was completed in my lunch break on a seminar I was teaching, after a conversation with some of the attendees. I flippantly used the analogy of jumping on unsuspecting members of the public, as we all compared our experiences…. Inspiration comes from many places.

So what does that mean? It means that there is someone else who sees the world of dog training and behaviour as I do! I’m not sure the world is ready for two of ‘us’…. But it also says that there is plenty of room for us all, and many more like you rather then different. If you adhere to a particular approach to training, you will naturally gravitate to those that share your perspective. This perspective should sit with who you want to be as a dog trainer, and dog owner.

The universe works in amazing ways, and send you the people, dogs and lessons you need irrespective of whether you are aware or even know you need them. Choosing a certain path of training your dog, will be reliant at times on the universe sending you the right people at just the right time. Especially those of you that are in isolation, either through geographical position or knowledge. I know that at each juncture of my career, I have been fortunate to have the right person/s come along at just the right moment. I am fully aware of walking a path laid down by many more before me. And I have always acknowledged their contribution.

There is no shame and it doesn’t detract from your own shine, to beam the light on others. This applies to business, work, sports, dog training and much more.

With information being more readily available, everyone is trying to carve their own niche and make an impression on the world of training dogs and behaviour. Outlandish stunts, dynamic video clips and eye catching marketing are like shiny buttons to a magpie. I include myself in this, as I am currently working on a my own online project. My two biggest source of advise were in fact two people Denise Fenzi and Susan Garrett, who both have their online communities! Why would they give me advice and allow me to ‘glean’ from their experience? Because, they know that facilitating others success and joy, doesn’t detract from theirs… in fact, it contributes to it. Raising others up, sharing their work and acknowledging the achievement of others doesn’t take anything away from the light that already shines on you.

This could be acknowledging how well behaved someones dog is, unbeknown to you the struggle they have gone though to get to that point. This could be competition, if you see someone do a fantastic round, or run… tell them. Even if they are in the same class as you, it doesn’t mean you weren’t great, it just means that you aren’t afraid to let others know how great they are. And you know what, the Universe is listening. When you need a pick up or some acknowledgement, it’ll come your way.

Sometimes we all need assurance and acknowledgement. Reading Suzanne’s words, made me realise that my own words may have merit. The similarities may be pure coincidence, but it was the universe affirming my thoughts and perspective. And in return, without even knowing it, her work from 20yrs ago has been echoed. The universe at work again.

I know that in my journey to follow a path of training based on certain principles, it has directed me to those that share my views and attracted others wanting to embrace a new perspective. Indeed, I became involved with the Fenzi Sports Dog Academy because of this want to share this perspective on a platform which I believed in. The more we shed light on those who share our beliefs, the greater the chance of us ‘all’ succeeding. There is no need to be afraid to share that light, or take it away from others, whether they share your beliefs or not. Focus on the energy you project and let the universe do the rest.

‘In our togetherness as a team, castles are built’. Irish Proverb.

He just wants to say hello….

I was at the supermarket the other day, doing the things ‘normal’ people do, like buying chia seeds and oat milk for my vegan baby.. when I saw this couple in one of the aisle. They seemed busy looking at the shelves for something, totally oblivious to me. I really wanted to say hi to them, I just couldn’t help myself… so i just ran over and stuck my nose up the lady’s skirt…. the guy went mad! Not sure what his problem was, I was only being friendly…. geez some people. Total over reaction!

I thought it best to leave them for the moment although I will probably go back later to say hi again, and definitely if I see them again, I’ll definitely say hi!

So I just continued minding my business and I saw an older lady doing her groceries, she looked kinda frail… and clearly from the way she was scrutinising the wording on the packaging, her eyesight wasn’t the best. But you know what, I just had to say hi! I rushed over to her, and just jumped on her. She toppled over, but hey ho, thats life. And I just couldn’t help myself, I started dry humping her in the 6th aisle of the supermarket, right next to the tin beans and tomato ketchup! For some reason, she didn’t appreciate my greeting and started using the most obscene language I think I’ve ever heard! Geez some people!

Ok… you get where I am going with this? I’m not writing this blog for the inside of a police cell, after being arrested and probably sectioned!

But substitute this scenario, for a park… or field and the person rushing up to someone and over zealously greeting them isnt a ‘person’, its a dog… perhaps even your dog. Or someone else’s.

This an all too common scenario that plays out on a daily basis for most of people, unless like myself you are blessed to be able to walk in a location where you can largely avoid people and dogs for an entire walk, which can be hours! And before you assume this was always the case, it most definitely was not. I used to live in the middle of London and walk my dogs in local parks, woods or fields where it would be more like a scene from ‘Blade Runner’ rather then a peaceful walk. And I had a dog that really didn’t like other dogs in his space at all. So I can definitely relate. And even now, I attend parks and fields to train my dogs, and don’t always have the option to avoid people.

Here is a video showing a prime example of exactly this, not once but twice

in the space of 15mins. Watch the video and note, What would your dog do? What would you do?

Typical park meeting

Its super frustrating, right? When all you want to do is enjoy your peaceful walk or train your dogs, leaving with the number of dogs you set out with, not any additional extra who decide to join you!

Or worse still, you have put months and months of work with your dog that is ‘reactive’ or aggressive, or nervous only to have one unplanned interaction that could potentially put you back months, if not further.

So what can you do about it?

Here’s the answer. Not a dam thing. Sorry people, but there’s nothing you can do about it….well certainly not the other dog or person. But you can do things to help yourself and your dog. The chances are that its probably going to happen. So welcome it, plan for it and expect it.

The reality is, you are unlikely to be able to control every single scenario your dog will encounter in the ‘real world’. I wish that we could, it would make training SO much easier. But for most of us, we have to take our dogs to public locations to train or exercise them. You could invest countless hours into counter conditioning, exposing your dog to other dogs strategically and systematically, and yet when you take your dog for a morning walk, they get rushed by that over zealous cockerpoo that notoriously frequents your local park, and sets you back another 6months.

So what can you do? When I say, not a dam thing… thats a broad statement, but you can’t concern yourself with the dogs and people that are going to approach your dog, because you can’t control them.

You can’t control the millions of un-trained dogs with poor social skills, and owners who genuinely don’t see it as a problem… you can try and educate them, but dog ownership is a bit like telling people how to parent their kids. Is a sensitive subject. People get defensive. However, you can demonstrate to them what a well behaved dog looks like and set an example they may then wish to follow.

In most instances, its not malicious, its just people being ignorant of the greater picture. They probably go through their entire dogs life without having any awareness of the affects of their dogs behaviour. Those oh so familiar phrases of ‘oh thats ok, he’s only being friendly….’ or ‘ its ok, he could do with a telling off’…. or ‘if your dog doesn’t like dogs, it shouldn’t be in public’…. the list goes on.

Now we could stand their and give them a crash course in canine communication, discuss serotonin levels in dogs when under stress, appropriate social etiquette etc but in reality, in the mindset you are in, are you going to want to stand and discuss calming signals with someone who’s labrador has just molested your geriatric old toy poodle, whilst the last thing you are displaying is anything but calmness!

What you can do is focus on your dog. You can create a dog that has so much value for the appropriate responses and behaviour, that they are almost bullet proof, or at least have so much ‘bubble wrap’ via training that they learn how to deal in those situations you can’t plan for. You can create a dog who’s sole focus is you. You can build so much desire to remain with you and attentive, that your dog isn’t interested in anything else. If it it is, the interest is minimal and brief.

Having a few simple skills, behaviours, and practical management techniques can help even the most stressful situation, pass with ease.

  • Build focus for you. A dog that is engaged and focused, is less likely to want to focus or redirect its energy. Build value for you. All good things come from you.
  • Teach your dog to love their collar being grabbed. This is a basic and simple go to skill in a situation that could be volatile. If a dog approaches your dog unexpectedly, you want to be able to grab their collar and not trigger a explosion or potentially make your dog even more ‘reactive’.
  • Teach a solid and stable control position, sit or down. This needs to be well proofed so that the dog will cope with any distraction you can create, and eventually any distraction from the outside world.
  • Invest daily in your recall, so that you can always get your dog back irrespective of the distraction.
  • take high level reinforcement with you, so that you can always distract your dog away if need be. This is about making the best of a situation and getting out of it unscathed.
  • Rather then telling people your dog doesn’t like other dogs, tell them your dog has an eye infection, which is highly contagious to close contact… you’ll be amazed how quickly they’ll come and ‘retrieve’ their dog!
  • Stay calm. Getting irate only adds fuel to the fire, breath….think clearly and don’t panic.
  • Create distance if possible, remedy the situation as best you can and calmly move away from the issue. This is not the time nor place to have a stand off about who’s right of way it is. Walking away unscathed and unharmed is a win!
  • Being proactive. Don’t avoid opportunities to improve your dogs confidence, even if its a good distance away. Be patient and keep working.

A set back isn’t the end of the road, just a detour.

Dust yourself off, rant to a friend, let it go and keep moving forward.

Kamal Fernandez

X why Z

A good friend asked me a simple but profound question, which was a huge aha moment for me…. the simplicity of the question gave me so much clarity and hit me like a sledgehammer….

I am currently working on a few big projects, which are challenging me for several reasons. It’s moments like this that make you doubt yourself and what you are doing. You question whether what you are doing is going to work, whether you are going to make it, whether you will achieve your goals or fall flat on your face. I had this same series of thoughts when ever I changed jobs, or even when I had a totally career change. This is part of the excitement of being out of your comfort zone. But can also be daunting and overwhelming.

This is a natural part of any change, growth and development as an individual.

The question was simple. ‘Why?’

‘Why’ are you doing….. You can fill in the blank with whatever issue your are currently struggling with….

The ‘why’ can be applicable to those of us that compete in dog sports, or simply your dog having a behavioural issue or your own ‘why’ you are doing something.

There is so many variations of the why.

‘Why is my dog chasing bikes?’

‘Why does my dog keep making mistakes in competition?

‘Why does my dog knock poles?’

‘Why does my dog react to other dog’

‘Why does my dog break stays’

‘Why am I out in the rain, training when other people are in the the dry and warmth ;)’

The list is endless….

But the ‘why’ often provides the answer and solution to any problem.

The ‘why’ might be simple, and staring you in the face. But sometimes the ‘why’ may take soul searching and work.


Identifying ‘why’ is sometimes the hardest part. It has been for me of late.

Identifying the ‘why’ means cutting through all the extra stuff, all the nonsense and getting down to the real issue. In dog training terms, this means dealing with the cause and not the symptoms.

Often the symptom is the ‘easier’ issue to deal with because its the most obvious issue. The dog that has a behavioural issue, it is the ‘easier’ resolution to deal with the symptom. The dog that lunges out, stopping the lunging is only half the solution. Stopping the lunging doesn’t deal with the ‘why’. The why, may take more work to resolve, it may take a more holistic resolution. The why may be because the dog is scared or fearful. It may need counter conditioning, it may need appropriate socialisation, it may have an underlying physical issue.

The ‘why’ can give your clarity. It can answer the core issue and provide a solution that will ACTUALLY work.

I often see dogs that have had the ‘symptom’ of an issue, being the primary focus of the training, but the why hasn’t been identified or acknowledge. This is a crucial step in gaining stability in resolving an issue that could have existed for literally years.

The ‘why’ may take a moment of reflection, and honesty. It may require you to face up to, or admit to a gap in your dogs training. Apportioning blame to the dog, the situation, a distraction or justifying the problem is essentially ignoring the ‘why’.

Taking time to identify the why, is crucial. Even the choices and path you choose to train your dog. Why have you opted to train the dog using a certain methodology? Why have you chosen that reinforcement? ‘Why did you deliver that toy in that manner?’. The ‘why’ should not only answer the above questions, but also answer the greater ‘why’… why are you even training dogs or why have you got THIS dog?

The answer to the why, can bring a great deal of satisfaction and peace once identified. Don’t ignore it, do the work and answer the simple question ‘why’.

For me the why provided direction. It gave me clarity to move forward and continue on the journey.

‘The universe has an amazing way of listening to you, and sending you exactly what you need, when you need it…. whether you want it or not….. So listen, and answer the simply question ‘why?’

Can I speak to the manager?

When dealing with behavioural issues, there are three key options when encountering an issue or problem. This is applicable to any training issue be it behavioural or a specific sport related issue.

Ignore, train and manage.

You can choose to ‘totally ignore a behaviour’. This is applicable to behaviours that your dog does that may niggle you, but not to the point of being an ‘issue’. You make a conscious decision to ignore the behaviour because although it may be ideally what you want, you don’t feel it needs addressing…. you may even find it endearing, humorous, or entertaining or its just simply not that big deal. All those are perfectly reasonable options. An example of this may be your dog chasing the hoover for example. This is a common behaviour amongst herding breeds that many choose to ignore. Its one of those quirky breed idiosyncrasies that although you would rather your dog didn’t do, you make a choice to ignore…. or just don’t hoover 😉

Choosing to ignore a behaviour needs to be based on the behaviour a) not affecting anyone else b) isn’t dangerous c) isn’t linked to other behaviours  that are concerning you.

The second option is to ‘train against the behaviour or train an incompatible behaviour’.  This is where you train  an behaviour that prevents the dog from rehearsing or doing the behaviour you don’t want. So for example, if you wanted to train against the dog herding the hoover, you would teach them to remain in their bed whilst the hoover was on. By remaining in their bed, they earn reinforcement… and ultimately ‘stop’ chasing the hoover.

The incompatible behaviour has to be prevent the dog from doing the inappropriate behaviour….. teaching a dog that has bitten someones face, to ‘give a kiss’ as an incompatible behaviour isn’t a ‘wise’ option….and yes, I have heard this as a ‘solution’ to exactly this problem! The incompatible behaviour needs to be appropriate, and not create an alternative issue.

The third option is to ‘manage’ behaviour. This is an option where the guardian chooses to manage the dogs inappropriate behaviours throughout the dogs life. The behaviour may be so established, or the guardian may not be able to resolve it, or the ‘ends wouldn’t justify the means’, that the option is to ‘manage’ the dogs behaviour in the circumstances where they are likely to rehearse or display the unwanted response.

So, with the dog that chases the hoover… managing the behaviour would be to put the dog in another room when you were hoovering, and when you wanted to change locations, simply switch the hoover off, move the dog then continue. the dog still has the ‘issue’ but, I have found a way to avoid it affecting my life. In this circumstances, the behavioural issue  could be seen as minimal.

However, the decision to manage behaviour needs to be a conscious one, and not the dog shaping you to avoid dealing with an issue that may affect you in other circumstances.

Management of behaviour has become a more common option for many. However often the behaviour can be resolved and trained against, with the appropriate approach. Management of behaviour can be extremely daunting and often requires a constant vigilance to your dog ownership. A lifetime of scanning, checking, constantly being on guard and aware can be exhausting. And for some of us, management of behaviour isn’t an option. We HAVE to train against the inappropriate response.

Management of behaviour is often a recommended option for dogs with aggression issues, reactivity or fear based issues. And sometimes this is absolutely the appropriate decision. When you own a dog with behavioural issues, that could result in displays of aggression, we have a responsibility to ensure that our dogs inappropriate behaviour doesn’t affect the life that others choose to lead with their dog. The earnest of responsibility is on my shoulder to ensure my dogs doesn’t harm or injure another.  Whether this issue is based on fear, previous experience, genetics etc is irrelevant to the person on the receiving end of my dogs unwanted behaviour.

However the constant need to be vigilant 24/7/365 can be exhausting. It can evolve into a full time occupation in itself. Going for a simple walk, can be a expedition, with pre-planning, equipment, time co-ordination, a partner or team to go with, as though preparing to hike to the Antarctic! The anxiety and stress of what ‘MAY’ happen, needs almost a process of mental preparation before stepping out of the door. A walk consisting of 200% attention and focus on the dogs every breath, and the route taken must be strictly adhered to…any deviation resulting in a mild to extreme panic…..This may sound extreme, but speak to anyone that lives a life of management and they will tell you, this is exactly what it feels like.

A lot of the stress and the constant ‘risk assessing’ can be mitigated with ‘training’. A dog that has some core skills can negate the need to live a life of management.

Having owned a dog that was just didn’t like other dogs, I managed his behaviour constantly. I knew that he was likely to be aggressive and bite another dog.

At this point, I could explain or give an explanation of what type of dog he was most likely to want to bite, what the circumstances would have to be etc, what they would have to do to trigger his reaction, and justify his behaviour by saying what a lovely dog he was with people.… in attempt to minimise the issue, or save the shame associated with owning a dog that was ‘aggressive’. Surely as a professional dog trainer, my dog should be perfect? However, none of this would serve to assist the person whose dog was on the receiving end of his actions, nor would they be likely to care at the point when he was attacking their dog. So management was a huge part of his life. I was always aware of his behaviour and I scanned, observed and monitored him constantly.

However, because of my choice to compete in a dog sport with him, I was also forced to have to ‘train’ against his issues. My intention was to compete in a sport where he would have to be in close proximity to other dogs, he would have to be off the lead, and there was always a risk that he could have a dog approach him, or intrude in his space that fitted the criteria of a dog he was likely to dislike, and often he would be either away from me or out of my sight.

I didn’t have the option to manage him constantly any more.

This was a dog that didn’t like dogs in his space at all, yet through training, I was able to have him in a down or sit, out of my sight, with varying distances away from me, off the lead… and another dog positioned between 3-6ft away and on one occasion, interfering with him… and he held his position… confidently, happily and wanting to remain there.

His training allowed him to lead a fuller life, and allowed me to enjoy the dog without the constant pressure and stress that management can cause. I walked him in public places off lead, he could be around other dogs he didn’t know. I merge management with training. Don’t get me wrong, I would still manage, but I didn’t live in a head space of anxiety of stress.

Management of behaviour is always an option. It isn’t a failure of the trainer/guardian. It is acknowledging what and who your dog is, and accepting them for what they are. Warts and all.

Its smart dog ownership, and being a compassionate person as your are putting your dog and others above your ego. However, training can open so many more doors for you and your dog, and allow your to lead a fuller life with the dog that your love and adore. It can result in a dog that is happy, has clarity and joy in wanting to do the ‘right’ thing.

Embrace all options, and make the choice of which option is appropriate based on the life you want to lead with your dog.

‘The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have. ~ Louis E. Boone’