I expect you are wondering what on earth I am talking about, how can the infamous bad guy from the Harry Potter Series relate to dog training?
Well, in dog training spheres there are names and words that must not be mentioned, and if you find yourself daring to utter these names or words, you must do so with a hushed voice or whisper and prepare for a barrage of comments declaring how heinous and awful they are…
Well lets stop, take a breath and chill… if just for a second.
Certainly in terms of dog training and behaviour, there is one particular name that if mentioned can split a room like Moses and the red sea. I am deliberately not using ‘The Name’, for fear of a barrage of emails, messages or scathing FB comments… however, here is the point of conflict.
I kind of agree with some of ‘Voldermorts’ thinking. Lets pause for a second whilst I find my hard hat and get into my underground bunker….
Let me be clear. I disagree STRONGLY with the the vast majority of what is promoted, and employed… but you know what. There’s a lot I agree with.
For example, exercising and stimulating your dog. I most definitely agree with this and the thinking behind it, I may approach it differently as may you, but if we whittle it down to ‘disagree/agree’, i agree.
Dogs should have Boundaries. I agree. My dogs have boundaries about how I wish for them to behave, I may teach this via reinforcement but the intent is still the same. I believe boundaries are healthy, they will literally save my dogs life so I have them.
Affection. Agree here too. My dogs are more then just ‘dogs’…. they have a place in my heart and soul etched out solely for each and every one of them. Being around them and near them is a joy. It always has been. I love dogs, I love them in all their weird and wonderful shapes, sizes and colours.
Can you see my conflict! I agree with a lot ‘Voldermort’ says!! Awkward!!!
So what does that say? What does that say about me as a trainer, teacher, dog owner, dog lover?
It doesn’t. It just says that I can see in others our similarities and our differences and thats ok. Rather then judging or condemning others because ‘I am better’, ‘Nicer’, ‘kinder’ or ‘more positive’… why not allow your actions to demonstrate all the above. These actions and example will attract those who want to engage, those that are curious and those that are questioning. And by not judging, you still leave the possibility of communication.
Agreeing to disagree is not a ‘loss’, and being able to differ between an opinion and a person is a vital skill to develop. I can like someone but disagree with them adamantly, or dislike someone yet totally share their views. Often we make our judgements without having a open dialogue.
Dog training, behaviour, diet, exercise and the endless list of topics related to their well being, can cause opportunity for arguments and disagreements, but choosing to discuss in a civil manner and voicing your opinion in an articulate manner may cause a pebble to drop in an otherwise still ‘pool’ and create a ripple.
This ripple may be the start of change.
In divisive times we need to look not at what makes us different, but our commonality. It is this, that will allow us ALL to prosper. Leave the door open, even Voldermort may step in 😉